ICYMI: Rise at 5th Event Recap
This Thursday, we teamed up with AdidasNYC to host a Rise on 5th event – our first event of the year!! In case you missed it, here’s what went down:
Everyone got to mingle and enjoy some Chalait coffee and matcha before grabbing a mat and diving into our workout. Melanie Torres, Fitness Instructor and Wellness Entrepreneur, led a 25-minute “Stretch and Sweat” session, focusing on both physicality and mentality. After instructing everyone to start in child’s pose, she urged everyone to recognize which areas of their bodies were tight or fatigued, and to “send a deep breath of love and encouragement to those areas.”
This mind-body consciousness was a theme for the rest of the workout. During one of the tougher moves, she advised attendees to breathe through the discomfort and explained, “If you can learn how to breathe through the discomfort here on the mat, you can learn how to do it out in the world.” This direction was the perfect way to lead us into the conversation portion of our morning.
The conversation was about the art of resetting for the new year and how to create and maintain good habits to stay on track and achieve your goals. Ally and Melanie both mentioned the idea of having a word that they chose to embody throughout the year instead of a classic resolution. Ally’s word for 2019 is quality. Although she admitted this has already been a big challenge for her, she plans to be more selective with the things she chooses to say “yes” to. She compared her goal to going to a buffet: “You end up tasting everything and enjoying nothing.”
Melanie’s word was free. By this, she means “free from limiting beliefs; it’s free from that fear of failure.” This fear of failure is something that everyone has in common, and that fear leads to self-doubt and insecurity about our abilities. This inspired Ebonny Fowler to share her story about how this concept is very present in her life at the moment. She told everyone about her two-week-old baby and how it can be scary to tackle motherhood because everyone wants to be the perfect mother, but no one truly knows how to do so. She set her mind to believing wholeheartedly that she is “enough.” This became her focus word for the year and it definitely resonated with the rest of the room.
Tools to Stay on Track
Attendee Lud Merka asked a question about how to stay on track and remember what you set out to focus on that year in everyday life, which was the perfect way to transition into what Ally and Melanie wanted to discuss next: tactical tools.
1. Simplify. If your list is too long and you add a million things to what you already have to do in your day-to-day, it becomes too much to keep track of. Simplifying your goals into a word or a phrase can make it all easier to remember, because it encompasses all you want to achieve.
2. Tell everyone. There is an added pressure when you put what you want out into the universe, so throw it out there to the people you surround yourself with. This way, if you reach for the cookie on a non-cheat day or say a negative statement about yourself in their company, your friends and family can help remind you and hold you accountable. It also forces you to keep yourself honest.
3. Set small and constant reminders. Write your word or phrase on a million sticky notes, make it your screensaver, do whatever you gotta do so that your objective is in your face every day. It’s such an elementary tool, but it works! Don’t knock it ‘til you try it!
4. Create an action plan. You need to make your subjective, lofty, general goal, into a tangible, practical, objective goal. “I want to lose weight.” What does that mean? “I want to be more patient.” What does that mean? “I want to save more money.” What does that mean?! Determine what you are realistically going to do, what steps you are going to take, to get to where you want to go and live how you want to live.
5. Use a five-minute journal. These journals are meant to remind you what is important. In the morning, you write down what you’re grateful for and what you want to accomplish that day. Then, you go back and reflect before you go to bed. Everything connects back to positivity and gratitude to keep you grounded. If you slip up, you can always reset the next day. You’re human and that’s beautiful.
Struggle between Comparison and Self-Care
In the age of social media, comparing yourself to those you follow can create insecurity and guilt. Attendee Kelly Ryan expressed this constant struggle of feeling like she isn’t doing enough if she takes a day off to relax and reset, because there are a bunch of people on her timeline who seem like they have it all going for them and they’re always grinding. We all suffer from comparison, and, in reality, it’s all filtered. Ally explained that she doesn’t always have amazing days and cited an experience she had recently with a family member telling her she made him feel bad about himself because of how great everything seemed on social media. She realized, “It was a reality of my responsibility.” Even though most social media influencers don’t post with bad intentions, she urges you to mute or unfollow anyone who makes you feel bad or guilty, “…because at no point do you give someone the authority to create a narrative in your head and rewrite your story and tell you you’re not good enough.”
Melanie shared her experience of how she curates her page: sometimes she posts a picture of a yoga workout that she did a week prior or posts a picture of a healthy-looking meal she ate but doesn’t post the pizza. She posts to inspire, not deceive. However, that can be a point of insecurity for some people, even her. She suggested her fellow social media lovers be mindful of how they feel about the overwhelming flow of images: “We have to always remind ourselves that [social media] is an illusion and that you can create the reality that you want.”
Whatever you want to achieve in 2019, we hope you achieve it.
If you missed this event, no worries! We have a lot more inspiring events in store for you all this year. You were missed, but we will see you soon!